Love And Infatuation
Are you really in love? Or do you think that you
are in love?
There is a big difference between Love and infatuation. Some
people can't tell the difference, thinking they are in love but
really it is a deep infatuation. Infatuation is instant desire
- one set of glands calling to another.
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows,
one day at a time.
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited
and eager, but not genuinely happy.
There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and
pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine
too closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection.
It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster
your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they
are away.
Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little
films in your head that you keep replaying.
But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.
Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't
risk losing them."
Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with
confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you
are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.
Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship,
which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you
can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if
they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They
feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.
Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but
love never steers you in the wrong direction.
Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle.
It fills the empty space in your heart.
Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes
you think up.
It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have
love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you
don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there
is has a lot less meaning. The secret of our being is not only
to live but to have something to live for.
INFATUATION
Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also.
Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love, though, is love
of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but
in real love both the emotions and the will are involved. Next,
a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into"
real love.
Guys, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you
thought you'd faint?
This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction.
often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called
love. Thus, infatuation is mostly biological. Also remember, never
tell a girl you love her, unless you are willing to marry her.
Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically
selfless.Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself
and the feeling than it is in the other person.
Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks
to give instead of get.. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good
for the other person.
Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where
real love is strengthened by time and separation.
This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On
the contrary, there is great pain in separation if
you are truly in love.
LOVE
Now you know what is infatuation, we will go on to discuss about
the details of a true love. Love is patient. The word translated
"patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfilment
of expectations.
When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want
to come out, if you truly love her, you will not complain and
blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view
- maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming
out. You must react to it with patience and understanding.
Next, have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted
to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you
have! Love, however, is willing to give a relationship time to
grow at a natural pace.
It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to
grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.
Love is Kind Love seeks to encourage and build up others. It respects
the feelings and emotions of others..
It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy.
You can do the following:
1. Give one another things such as gifts and encouragement cards.
2. Compliment one another. Magnify the other party's strength.
3. Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of
you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is
important.
4. Treat one another special in public. Compliment and encourage
one another sincerely in the presence of others.
5. Love is Not Jealous. Jealousy usually indicates an insecure
and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy
is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement,
"If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget
about me!" Often, one person wants to totally possess the
other and to restrict her relationships with others.
6. Love is not about bragging. Love is not a windbag and is not
anxious to impress. Often a guy will brag to a girl, trying to
impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however,
does not need to exalt himself! Others will exalt him.
7. Love is Not Arrogant. Love is not conceited, boastful,cocky,
or stuck-up. Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude.
Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can
take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanour implies, "You
ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you."
Of course, this is not love.
8. Love always covers. This word cover means to pass over in
silence, to keep confidential.
9. Love is patient with the faults of others. It doesn't criticise
and broadcast to the world the faults of others.
Love is there even when it knows the other is not perfect.
10. Love always Perseveres. Love always stands its ground and
hold out. It will outlast anything. It will even love in the face
of unrequited love. Real love will last though all sorts of trials,
tribulations and stresses.
11. Love is Not Provoked. This means that love has a long fuse.
It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended.
12. Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love
is other-centred rather than self- centred. Love says, "I
love you, I want to give to you." Selfishness says, "I
love you, I want you!"
13. Love does not act unbecomingly. This means that love does
not behave disgracefully, dishonourably or indecently. It does
not embarrass others by its action. It is characterised by tact
and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manner.
Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl,
or offering her your arm when you walk together.
14. Lastly, Love is forgiving. This is a MUST for a successful
love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget when
his girlfriend is one hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Love
doesn't hold grudges when it has been
wronged. It doesn't remain resentful.
** Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins. **
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